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so many years ago, my mom asked me,
“why is it that when you are helping your friends do their assignments you are having so much fun, and yet, when it’s your sister that you’re teaching, you get so strict and you get so mad and irritated when she doesn’t get it right?” (simply said, why can you be so good to others yet so cruel to your own sister?)
i wasn’t able to explain myself back then. i didn’t know what to answer. why indeed?
and i got the answer. just a little later after she asked me so. but i wasn’t able to tell her. and perhaps, i left her believing, i love my friends better than i love my sister.
but, it’s not that. my friends were only after for the answers of the homework, not really the explanation/s behind the answers. and i left it at that. that was all they wanted. whether they learned from it or not, it didn’t matter much to me. and while my sister wanted answers to her homeworks just the same, i taught her further. and i insisted that she had to learn it in detail. by heart. and i didn’t leave her without that solid understanding. because it mattered much to me that she’d be able to answer not only her homework but also the exams and whatever that there was after.
mom, i hope you get me now. i hope i made myself clear. now. though late.
supermom said,
July 13, 2007 at 9:52 am
That does make perfect sense…
Charlotte said,
July 15, 2007 at 9:53 am
… and it’s irritating when there is much more to give than the other (your sister, in this case) is willing to take.
sunjun said,
July 15, 2007 at 11:39 am
im sure your mom gets you ^^
… and sometimes siblings can be so irritating bcoz they tend to take you for granted … actually, ako, being the youngest, i take my sister for granted most of the time hehehe ^^
babesrose21 said,
July 16, 2007 at 3:20 am
thanks mommy mel. appreciate having heard a motherly comment telling me i made sense.
and charm, you are right. i didn’t realize that was one of the reasons. indeed. indeed.
and sunjun… ana diay na? mao diay…. hehe… she’s our youngest sister too. it really is funny how us kids act according to how we are positioned by birth. i mean, naa jud general distinction.
shiera said,
July 16, 2007 at 11:21 pm
I agree with you… that’s also how I treat my brother. I didn’t want him to be so dependent… I wanted him to take his responsibilities seriously.